We all have someone to look up to; someone inspiring, motivating, funny or intelligent. There are amazing people who have not let their disabilities deter them from pursuing their dreams, such as Stephen Hawking, Stevie Wonder and Ian Dury to name a few. But how many famous people with additional needs can you actually name without looking them up? Who can your child relate to and be inspired by?

The sad truth is that there are not many who are projected into the limelight, and who give any child with disabilities someone to look up to. We can encourage and challenge, we can love and support, but WE are constantly told that we can do anything. The media picks and chooses who is popular, but rarely is it someone with additional needs, and when it is, those needs are rarely acknowledged if not physical.

Recently, we were rooting for the likes of Lost Voice Guy and Robert White on Britain's Got Talent, and it was fabulous to see such diversity, and people embracing all walks of life and abilities across the spectrum and beyond! But even in the eyes of my son, who is diagnosed with autism, they were 'just people' who didn’t need to be rejoiced any more than usual.

If all walks, shapes, sizes, colours, races, religions, genders and sexual orientations were the 'norm', then we wouldn't have to make these things a big deal, as everyone would be accepting of and inspired by all.  But I simply can't think of ANY childhood heroes or stars with disabilities that my son, or any child, would be able to relate to.

We have fabulous shows like The Last Leg and the odd character in soaps. We have Paralympians who most definitely inspire everybody! I remember when my kids used to watch Tracy Beaker, and there was a character with Cerebral Palsy called Frank. I don't ever recall them making any judgement or comments about him. He was just Frank.

Are we demanding too much? I think not. I feel our kids need role models and people to inspire them. I want my son to have a chance at being HIM, whoever he wants to be, and NEVER feel inadequate or not good enough.

Who controls this? Who decides who is going to be the next 'BIG' thing? Why can't my son see that having autism doesn't have to limit his ambition and dreams?

What do you think? Who does your child aspire to be? Who do they admire?

Jane has been a single parent of three children for six years. It was clear that her son was in need of great support, and the long journey of numerous assessments began. He was diagnosed with autism in April 2016. Read more of Jane's blogs at - www.coffeeandglow.co.uk