I'm very lucky with Z, he's still young enough to get away with that toddler tantrum. Of course it doesn't stop passersby starring when he's crying and on the floor. We have always put him in his pram if we're out, or during the summer to go to the park, I'd use a toddler carrier. That way if things become too much for him, on my back he gets the sensory pressure from being held against me, he can hide away from people and calm down. In the pram he would have his iPad, drink and his blankie. In the last few months he'll use headphones whilst in his pram.

I'm starting to get to know a lot of Z’s triggers at the start of a meltdown, so I've started to count down from three to one, this seems to work well, he's getting that warning that things are changing and we are leaving. When we are out and we have his numbers or letters, it's a letter away time warning, then again letters away, time to leave. This helps. I couldn't just up him and leave or he would be on the floor kicking and screaming. I try to keep things simple, of course I take him places and he's not on a strict routine yet, there's places I don't take him if I know he's going to struggle, it's not worth it. If he doesn't have to go to that place we don't go.

I think everyone will be in the same position at least once, even with a child without any additional needs, it just happens that those people who's child has outgrown the tempers on the floor can't seem to grasp the fact that our children don't have a temper they have a meltdown and it's much harder to get through to them and help them. They can't help it, they have no other way to express how difficult their environment is at that moment.

This last year I've learnt to take no notice of the stares.  At places like the dentist when I'm literally dragging him in the door, if he lays on the floor I sit on the floor at the side of him regardless of the looks I get. I will say to him it's ok, and tickle him. He loves tickles, they seem to calm him down.  Sometimes he just looks like a spoilt brat, but I'll take that over the kicking and screaming on the floor.

I'm still taking each day as it comes, I'm sure I will continue to take it like this for many more years. I'm expecting the looks to get worse the older and bigger he gets.

Jo is mum to Z, nearly four who was diagnosed with autism at 2 years 10 months. At the moment Z is still pre-verbal, he's starting to say the odd word, and his best friend is George our Chihuahua. They both love to go for walks and play in the water! - Read more of Jo's blogs at First Time Valley Mam.