I was going to write a long essay on how your priorities change as you get older and particularly when your family situation changes but everyone knows that. Naturally as a mother, my priorities are my children, their future and giving them as many chances in life that I can. 

In more detail there are a few things that are really important to me but it always seems to gravitate back to one thing, humanity, empathy and kindness.

I’m not a shallow person. I regularly go out without make up, I don’t care if my jumper has a hole in it and I’m pretty proud to say that I don’t have an entire wardrobe just for my handbag collection. In fact, I only have one handbag that I bought it in a charity shop last year!

What’s important to me is that people are happy and safe and able to look after themselves. I volunteered with a homeless shelter before Jude was born and throughout my pregnancy and during this time I met some of the most incredible people. People that have absolutely nothing. I heard some truly heartbreaking stories and many tales of utter cruelty inflicted on those who can defend themselves the least - why you would set fire to a homeless person’s tent is beyond me. Thankfully, the gentleman got out but I’m sure this moronic act chipped away at his already dented confidence and self-worth - so one of the most important things to me is helping as many people as I can. In many ways I’m very fortunate. I know the initial assumption is that I mean financially when I mention my fortuity, but I don’t. I’m fortunate in that I care. I care about people and therefore feel it is my responsibility to do as much as I can.

Following on from this train of thought is my feelings towards people with learning or physical disabilities. It’s important to me that those in society who could be deemed more vulnerable are taken care of, that they aren’t ever afraid or lonely. I don’t mean by doing everything for them, as I think this is entirely demeaning. Rather, it’s important to encourage independence whether that means choosing their own clothes each day or even holding down a job, everyone has capabilities and no-one should be ashamed of what theirs are. If I take Jude for example; he can never live alone, I entirely accept this fact. However, what is important to me is that he is given every opportunity possible to build his self-dependency and his confidence through taking on as many tasks as possible, maybe even have a job so he can earn a bit of money. It’s important to me that children like Jude have a decent education, that they are shown love, acceptance and companionship. It literally breaks my heart to think of how some people with disabilities live and I dread this ever happening to Jude. So far, Jude is incredibly lucky in life. I was able to fight for what he needs to be the best Jude possible and it’s important to me that other children like him are given equally the best chances in life. Jude has amazing people around him. We’ve forged a fantastic ‘Jude team’ and I’m so proud of this achievement. 

It’s important to me that other children have good teams around them but I’m not sure how I can influence this on any large scale.

As insane as it sounds, the rights of disabled people is so important to me I’m considering studying for a Masters degree in Human Rights so I can help as many people as I can get the help they need, the residential support and education they need and just so they have their voices heard. People who are in difficult situations with councils, educational establishments, etc. I appreciate many aren’t able to shout as loudly as I am, and I would love the chance to use my confidence and experience to good use.

Many things are important to me but it seems to all boil down to the same thing; humanity, empathy and kindness. Kindness to all living creatures, kindness to people who show you kindness, and even kindness to those who don’t. 

Read more about Alice and Jude's adventures on her blog Living with a Jude