Communication leads to awareness Having a child that has additional needs is always worrying when they are out of your sight, whether that is with a family member, friends or when they attend school. You are placing your trust with that person, to safeguard them and protect them. Sending your child to school becomes a minefield... especially in my case! My little boy, when he was in primary school KS1, was undiagnosed. He was loud, disruptive and he struggled in the classroom setting. When there was something that he didn’t like going on in a lesson he wouldn’t understand. This behaviour made him an easy target. My boy suffered over and over again at the hands of the bullies, and in my honest opinion it was not dealt with appropriately. I’m not saying every incident was physically violent, but most were and there was certainly more name calling and making fun of than there should be. If my child was a bully they would be dealt with appropriately - loss of privileges, not being allowed out and at the very least an apology letter. ADHD or not, my boy knows right from wrong! If everyone practised kindness the world would be a much better place! Here are a couple of examples of what happened to my boy... He was pushed in the back to make him lose his balance falling into a cupboard when getting supplies at school. Hit around the back of the head with a lunch box containing a metal bottle. Kicked in the middle of back and LOCKED in a supply cupboard. I appreciate boys will be boys, and by no means do I think my boy is an angel, but each of these incidents affected him so much! Happily, it doesn’t affect him now which is a good thing and I am pleased that it has had no lasting effect. Speaking to Josh now about what went on when he was at primary school, he said he worried. He worried about it happening again and he worried about what his class mates would think of him! I remember thinking that we, as his parents, needed to work hard to boost his confidence and make sure he was secure in the knowledge that no matter what happened he could speak to us about what was going on and how it made him feel. He knows that bullying is not acceptable at any level and we need to be kind to each other. He also knows that if he’s ever faced with the same situation, he needs to speak to someone immediately. Let’s hope with more communication we can increase awareness and knowledge around bullying and more importantly safeguard out little ones! For support and advice about bullying head to the Anti-Bullying Alliance website. Deborah is a new Family Fund Blogger, read more from our Family Fund Bloggers here.